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For years, she was on the lines of local political activism, marching at rallies and escorting women to an abortion clinic. These days, 81-year-old feminist Joan Uebelhoer spends little time on the streets, and her pet project is organizing a library of local women’s history.
But her car’s bumper sticker reflects her lifelong philosophy: “Well-behaved women rarely make history.”
Many who know her would agree that she hasn’t always been well-behaved. But in their eyes, that’s a good thing. “You love her or you hate her,” local activist Cat Voors says, laughing. “She’s got some detractors, but most of us just think the world of her.” Voors, who met Uebelhoer in 1992, calls her a best friend and mentor who is “like my other mother.”
Uebelhoer grew up in Fort Wayne as Joan (pronounced Jo-ann) Daley, the daughter of a union organizer. After graduating from Central Catholic High School, she headed to Mount Mary College in Milwaukee, where she majored in math and biology, and found the nuns to be a bit more liberal than those here. She returned to Fort Wayne and taught math at Forest Park Elementary School and Bishop Luers High School. And with her late husband, Jim, she raised five children.
Uebelhoer helped found Fort Wayne Feminists in the 1960s and the women’s studies department at Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne in the 1970s, where she taught part time for 30 years. She also served as Allen County auditor, executive director of Planned Parenthood of Northeast Indiana and director of the Allen County office of the Division of Family and Children. Despite her years as an abortion-rights activist, she says she was arrested only once, in the 1980s, and she didn’t end up in jail. She was accused of hitting a woman, which she denies. But she admits that sometimes her temper almost got the better of her.
“My son says the only reason I’m non-violent is because I’m short, because I do get angry sometimes,” she says. And she has angered plenty of others. She keeps a drawer full of “evil wishes” and death threats she has received over the years. Despite that downside, she says: “I miss the streets. I haven’t been doing much marching lately.” Although arthritis has slowed her a bit, she still has a passion for social justice.
Creating a library
One major goal is to create a women’s history library at the Fort Wayne Hedge School, 2513 S. Calhoun St., which she helped found last year. So she’s in the process of combing through more than 400 books and various papers in her home.
“I’ve got the history of the feminist movement in my file cabinets. Part of me wants to have it all together someplace; part of me doesn’t want to give it up,” she says. “My kids are so glad. When I die, they don’t want to have to go through this stuff; … the whole house is full of this stuff,” she says. Not that she has any intention of leaving anytime soon. There’s still too much work to do for the cause.
The statistics on violence against women haven’t changed much, she says. And the numbers of female legislators in Congress aren’t anything to write home about either, she says. “It does frustrate me. I was crazy enough to think you could make changes, and it would be over, but it’s not anywhere near over,” she says.
She found the 2008 election – in which Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Rodham Clinton and Republican vice presidential candidate Sarah Palin (“a caricature of everything we didn’t want women to be”) sparked a national debate about women’s roles – especially illuminating. “It was amazing there was that much sexism still afoot. It was very disappointing. I thought we had moved on past some of that. Some think women are not able to do some things, like lead a country. Other countries seemed to have got past that, but we haven’t,” she says. “Surely we can find a woman, before I die, to be the president of the United States. That would be great. Little girls need to know that’s something you can be when you grow up,” she says.
Role models
She lists the late feminist theologian Mary Daly and Victoria Woodhull (the first American woman to run for president in 1872) among her role models, as well as “any of the good ol’ girls” who had “the nerve to say what they thought.” She met Daly years ago when she gave a speech in Fort Wayne, and Uebelhoer picked her up at the airport. “I thought lightning was going to strike at her speech. … She (was) a very shocking woman,” she says, adding that Daly’s book “Pure Lust” is a great one to take on planes when you want to attract attention.
When Voors took her first women’s studies class at IPFW, Uebelhoer was her instructor. “She just floored me,” Voors says. “She speaks with a sense of humor. She’s got all the information in her head. You couldn’t win an argument with her; she’s as sharp as a tack.”
For her part, Uebelhoer is always surprised whenever a former student tells her, “You changed my life,’” as many have done over the years. “All I did was give them a sense of themselves,” she says.
Fort Wayne Women’s Bureau board member Leslie Raymer, who met Uebelhoer at a teen rally about 36 years ago, calls her a visionary. “Joan has always been a powerhouse of social action and getting things done. She used to joke that she got so much done because she only needed four hours’ sleep,” she says.
“She has great ideas about methods of moving things forward in ways that honor each participant. Joan’s gift is (the idea) that we all belong, whether we fully understand the issues or are a newcomer,” Raymer says.
If Uebelhoer had her way, we would all be socialized the same way in childhood, regardless of our gender, learn more about women’s roles in history and enjoy equal pay and representation.
“There is a gender class, and people sometimes don’t see that. We really do regard men as better than women,” she says.
Get active
Even some of her IPFW students, those with an interest in such issues, didn’t always know the whole story, as she discovered. After she showed “Iron Jawed Angels,” the HBO film about early suffragists, in class, some of her students were in tears. During discussion, some said they weren’t sure whether they could have done the same things as Alice Paul – namely getting arrested and going on a hunger strike in jail. “It’s hard to be an activist,” she says. Her advice to young feminists: get active.
When she’s not living up to her reputation as a rabble-rouser, most of her free time is spent organizing the library and writing speeches. She also portrays suffragist Elizabeth Cady Stanton at schools on request. She enjoys gardening, plus spending time with friends and deciding “what we need to do with the world,” she says. Sometimes, she even listens to right-wing radio personality Rush Limbaugh, because “it’s good for my blood pressure,” she jokes. A sense of humor is critical for any feminist, or anyone willing to spend a lifetime working for social change, as she has tried to do.
“I want to get it done before I go. I’ve threatened not to go until we get it done, but I don’t know if that’s going to work,” Uebelhoer says. “It’s a strange feeling; I’ve never been old before. To have everybody in any kind of power (be) younger than I am, that’s a funny feeling.”